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What Goals Do You Have For Your Marriage?

By Dr. John Wagner

One of the most meaningful experiences of my life occurred when my wife and I were married. At the conclusion of the ceremony, we shared our first communion. This was more than just a "pretty" part we decided to add to the ceremony, but a real symbol of the goal of our lives and our new relationship with each other.

Both Yvonne and I were born-again Christians and had committed our lives to Jesus Christ before we began dating. As individuals, we were committed to following Him and living according to His Word. When we married we pledged ourselves to each other, and our goal became to follow Jesus together instead of separately. This in no way implies that we lost our individuality or personhood. Instead, we became one in purpose as well as in flesh.

In our love for Jesus we had committed our individual lives into His care. An area that we were both concerned about, as most young people are, was who our life partner would be. The Lord was concerned too!

In 1 Peter 5:7 the Bible says,

"We are to cast all of our cares upon Him, because He cares for us."

So, prior to our meeting, God brought a young man from the mid-west all the way to California. In His own time and in His own way He brought the two of us together.

At the moment of our marriage, we pledged ourselves, before Jesus Christ, to be true to each other, and together to be true to Him. Our sharing of communion was our first act as a married couple. This sharing symbolized our commitment to follow Christ together.

In Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 the Bible puts it well when it says,

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow..."

Marriage is more than two people coming together for a while. It's the union of two individuals to make a whole. In the beginning God said,

Genesis 2:18

"It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

God united the first husband and wife, and continues to do so today, if we allow Him to.

Marriage is also much more than two lonely people coming together. It's two people helping each other along life's road to become all that the Lord intends them to be. It's two people, together following the Lord Jesus Christ, and doing all He intends for them to do.

Without Jesus Christ marriage is at best an armed truce between two people hoping to "get along" and perhaps raise a family before life comes to an end. All too often this truce breaks into open warfare; and what could have been a happy, fulfilling relationship ends in failure and divorce. A marriage with Jesus Christ as the central unifying force, becomes a growing experience, an adventure in life, a meaningful experience for both partners.

If you are wanting to get married, planning your wedding, or already married but feeling your relationship foundering or just going nowhere, consider allowing Jesus to come into your lives and make your marriage and your lives what He intends them to be. Jesus cares about you! What goals do you have for your marriage?

In the magazine "Marriage and Family Living" Emily Sargent Councilman wrote the following poem entitled,

"Touched by God's Love"
Joined with Christ, we are one.
  Choosing to follow together,
    Clasping hands, meeting eyes,
      Touched by God's love forever.
				
We bring our caring and thanks to Him;
  We bring our lives together.
    Joined with Christ, we are one,
      Touched by God's love forever.